Amazing timing n amazing presence

[Rajanandhini Sathish]

"Does brothers change after marriage?" was the topic. There were 3 brothers, 2 younger ones were seated in " brothers do change" side n the elder one on the other. The 2nd brother was commenting abt his elder bro stating he had changed. Gopinath raised a question to the 3rd one " which brother had changed the most?" the younger one replied that the 2nd one had changed a lot. The crazy thing was that the 2 younger brother were seated on the same side against the elder one. Gopinbath immediately dialled to their mom's # n asked who has changed the most after marriage and she replied the first. Gopinath presence n timing needs to be appreciated. He was able to conclude that situation with his sense of humour n presence. Very good presentation... Gopinath rocks...

[Vinodini]

hello madam Nandhini leave abt the show.. 1st be lovable to ur sister and brothers.. with in a week aftr ur marr u said ur "home" and "my home" nu.. i would have killed u if u had given any comments abt the show.. Gopinath pathi pesi escape aagita..


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"Does brothers change after marriage?" was the topic. There were 3 brothers, 2 younger ones were seated in " brothers do change" side n the elder one on the other. The 2nd brother was commenting abt his elder bro stating he had changed. Gopinath raised a question to the 3rd one " which brother had changed the most?" the younger one replied that the 2nd one had changed a lot. The crazy thing was that the 2 younger brother were seated on the same side against the elder one. Gopinbath immediately dialled to their mom's # n asked who has changed the most after marriage and she replied the first. Gopinath presence n timing needs to be appreciated. He was able to conclude that situation with his sense of humour n presence. Very good presentation... Gopinath rocks...

[lovemusic]

hello madam Nandhini leave abt the show.. 1st be lovable to ur sister and brothers.. with in a week aftr ur marr u said ur "home" and "my home" nu.. i would have killed u if u had given any comments abt the show.. Gopinath pathi pesi escape aagita..


.................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. ............................................hello frnds.. this stupid gal is my elder sister .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .......................................

Hi vinodhini, this tiny (chellamana) fight is more interesting than y'day's show, sweet of you:)

[Steffie]

hello madam Nandhini leave abt the show.. 1st be lovable to ur sister and brothers.. with in a week aftr ur marr u said ur "home" and "my home" nu.. i would have killed u if u had given any comments abt the show.. Gopinath pathi pesi escape aagita..


.................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. ............................................hello frnds.. this stupid gal is my elder sister .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .......................................

LoL, Vino! I enjoyed ur comments of chweet clash ya!:):p N Nandhini, gud explanation! So, friends, let me leave this to Sisters n vacate my place now.;)

P.S: In principle, it’s a bitter fact that in any relationships, the
changes after marriage is inevitable. (Percentage differs though!)

[lovemusic]

LoL, Vino! I enjoyed ur comments of chweet clash ya!:):p N Nandhini, gud explanation! So, friends, let me leave this to Sisters n vacate my place now.;)

P.S: In principle, it’s a bitter fact that in any relationships, the
changes after marriage is inevitable. (Percentage differs though!)

I agree with your PS steffie, and the root cause is too much love and possessiveness....as gopi said the prog had to deal with emotions more that debating:)

[san~j]

LoL, Vino! I enjoyed ur comments of chweet clash ya!:):p N Nandhini, gud explanation! So, friends, let me leave this to Sisters n vacate my place now.;)

P.S: In principle, it’s a bitter fact that in any relationships, the
changes after marriage is inevitable. (Percentage differs though!)

this is my 50th post...
so just to 4 da sake of puttin a post ill say i liked y'day's prog n become a SENIOR....ha ha:D

[ommsdxb]

I agree with your PS steffie, and the root cause is too much love and possessiveness....as gopi said the prog had to deal with emotions more that debating:)

Veetukku Veedu Vaasappadi........Every home has this complex situation and they are dealing with this on a daily basis....

I strongly feel these situations have erupted since this IT Era. The huge difference on the income levels between the brothers have fuelled more to these kind of situations compared to Love and possessiveness......

Even if the elder one feels to give something (gift or any valuables) to the younger one on one occasion, he is being compelled not to do after marriage...There may be many reasons acceptable or unacceptable but it hurts at the end of the day.......

Better to have a good relationship that does not involve money at any point of time between brothers....Impossible but keeping this way may save many hard feelings and emotional outburts and emerging distances in the relationships....

[Vinodini]

ohh thank u honey!!! we used to have more fights like this.. She loves me a lot but again "not more than her husband".... i dnt tell its wrong coz in my future even i may change like tht to my sis and brothers.. i MAY change but i DONT WANT TO CHANGE... i love my family!!!!!

Hi vinodhini, this tiny (chellamana) fight is more interesting than y'day's show, sweet of you:)

[Vinodini]

hmmmmmmmm thank u dear!!!!

LoL, Vino! I enjoyed ur comments of chweet clash ya!:):p N Nandhini, gud explanation! So, friends, let me leave this to Sisters n vacate my place now.;)

P.S: In principle, it’s a bitter fact that in any relationships, the
changes after marriage is inevitable. (Percentage differs though!)

[Vinodini]

hello what we expect from our elder brothers/sis is not the money r any other value things.... v expect just love and affection.. got it!!! may be u the one of tht kind.. sorry to say this.. but i felt like telling it..

Veetukku Veedu Vaasappadi........Every home has this complex situation and they are dealing with this on a daily basis....

I strongly feel these situations have erupted since this IT Era. The huge difference on the income levels between the brothers have fuelled more to these kind of situations compared to Love and possessiveness......

Even if the elder one feels to give something (gift or any valuables) to the younger one on one occasion, he is being compelled not to do after marriage...There may be many reasons acceptable or unacceptable but it hurts at the end of the day.......

Better to have a good relationship that does not involve money at any point of time between brothers....Impossible but keeping this way may save many hard feelings and emotional outburts and emerging distances in the relationships....

[Steffie]

Vino - U r welcome!:)

LM - Very true! both the elements listed by u (Love n Possessiveness)either act as balms or bombs as regards to the subject.:(

Omms, totally agreed to ur point on ‘Money’, which is perilous enuf at all kinds of time.:cool:

Senior Sanj – Very many congrats!:D

[ommsdxb]

hello what we expect from our elder brothers/sis is not the money r any other value things.... v expect just love and affection.. got it!!! may be u the one of tht kind.. sorry to say this.. but i felt like telling it..

Vinodini

Padichi paarthu padil sollanum......There is no relation to your reaction and to my post......

You may expect only Love & affection from your Elder Bro/sis but there are a million situations where money has strained these relationships...

i dont understand why you take the posts very personally and over-react ???????:)

Friends help her ...........

[subraps]

When I first heard this topic I was taken aback because in my opinion this is not a debatable topic at all. To him his own.

I watched the show and was more uncomfortable by the allegations made my the young"er.." siblings. My BP came back to normal thanks to the very cryptic points mentioned by the guest. She spoke really well in the limited time provided by her. I feel she could have been allowed to talk for some more time instead of people playing a blame game.

I have come to realise that the expectations from the eldest brother or the only son among multiple sisters "change after marriage" syndrome(as I would like to put it) is seen with a microscope by the blood relations(father, mother and siblings). They find fault telling dialogues like "Oh!!He has changed..He was this and that before and now see him". So from their experience when the younger siblings get married, the same blood relations are more open to accept the change because they do not want to be "heartbroken" ;-) one more time even though many times the people who alleged change by leaps and bounds after marriage.Something like "Oh..periyavane maaritaan..Ivanum maaruvaan. So namma mariyaadhai la irundha better". Why does this thought not come when accepting the first new non-blood relationship?????? Why is this discomfort for accepting "her"?The reason I said "her" is because when it is him he is the maapillai(a person with 2 horns) at the in-laws' home and a son(a person with 1 horn) at his parents' home. This is not entirely true in all cases but can definitely be generalised in my opinion.

Another point was that when the brother buys clothes for his wife he gives her secretly in their room. Well !
1. He would want to capture her first reaction of happiness in private or even expect a kiss/hug which she cannot give in front of everyone. And if she does god save her among his relatives for their "public show of affection".
2. He would want her to try the new costume in front of him in private.
3. It is a sexy lingerie for her. :-)

I do not see anything wrong in any of the above 3 reasons.

Well. after writing these private things in this public forum, I am willing to pay the price (which is) getting slaughtered by the co-Neeya Naana forumers. Having said this I stand by every word that I wrote.

Get set go !

[Rajanandhini Sathish]

When I first heard this topic I was taken aback because in my opinion this is not a debatable topic at all. To him his own.

I watched the show and was more uncomfortable by the allegations made my the young"er.." siblings. My BP came back to normal thanks to the very cryptic points mentioned by the guest. She spoke really well in the limited time provided by her. I feel she could have been allowed to talk for some more time instead of people playing a blame game.

I have come to realise that the expectations from the eldest brother or the only son among multiple sisters "change after marriage" syndrome(as I would like to put it) is seen with a microscope by the blood relations(father, mother and siblings). They find fault telling dialogues like "Oh!!He has changed..He was this and that before and now see him". So from their experience when the younger siblings get married, the same blood relations are more open to accept the change because they do not want to be "heartbroken" ;-) one more time even though many times the people who alleged change by leaps and bounds after marriage.Something like "Oh..periyavane maaritaan..Ivanum maaruvaan. So namma mariyaadhai la irundha better". Why does this thought not come when accepting the first new non-blood relationship?????? Why is this discomfort for accepting "her"?The reason I said "her" is because when it is him he is the maapillai(a person with 2 horns) at the in-laws' home and a son(a person with 1 horn) at his parents' home. This is not entirely true in all cases but can definitely be generalised in my opinion.

Another point was that when the brother buys clothes for his wife he gives her secretly in their room. Well !
1. He would want to capture her first reaction of happiness in private or even expect a kiss/hug which she cannot give in front of everyone. And if she does god save her among his relatives for their "public show of affection".
2. He would want her to try the new costume in front of him in private.
3. It is a sexy lingerie for her. :-)

I do not see anything wrong in any of the above 3 reasons.

Well. after writing these private things in this public forum, I am willing to pay the price (which is) getting slaughtered by the co-Neeya Naana forumers. Having said this I stand by every word that I wrote.

Get set go !


i agree with u that this is not a debatable topic at all and this was mentioned by Gopinath himself... but watching this show must have enlightened many people and may be they would understand and accept the changes and aso makes them realise that they themselves had changed once after their marriage, its inevitable.

[Vinodini]

Okay then im really very sorry for the last msg.

Vinodini

Padichi paarthu padil sollanum......There is no relation to your reaction and to my post......

You may expect only Love & affection from your Elder Bro/sis but there are a million situations where money has strained these relationships...

i dont understand why you take the posts very personally and over-react ???????:)

Friends help her ...........

[lovemusic]

Veetukku Veedu Vaasappadi........Every home has this complex situation and they are dealing with this on a daily basis....

I strongly feel these situations have erupted since this IT Era. The huge difference on the income levels between the brothers have fuelled more to these kind of situations compared to Love and possessiveness......

Even if the elder one feels to give something (gift or any valuables) to the younger one on one occasion, he is being compelled not to do after marriage...There may be many reasons acceptable or unacceptable but it hurts at the end of the day.......

Better to have a good relationship that does not involve money at any point of time between brothers....Impossible but keeping this way may save many hard feelings and emotional outburts and emerging distances in the relationships....

No omms, these situations have not erupted since this IT era....ithu kalam kalamaga iruppathu than....IMO those relations who complain that the newly wed has changed must actually change...they must be broad-minded enough to accept the changes for the sake of the newly-wed's married life.

IMO the problems are not only due to monetary issues, though they are also part and parcel of the situation in question:)

[lovemusic]

ohh thank u honey!!! we used to have more fights like this.. She loves me a lot but again "not more than her husband".... i dnt tell its wrong coz in my future even i may change like tht to my sis and brothers.. i MAY change but i DONT WANT TO CHANGE... i love my family!!!!!

you will change vino, and it should be a welcome change for all your relatives...they must accept it gracefully:)...but you seem to refuse to accept the changes in your elder sis after her marriage....but after your marriage you will be sailing in the same boat as your sister:)....its all a matter of too much love and possessiveness:)

[lovemusic]

When I first heard this topic I was taken aback because in my opinion this is not a debatable topic at all. To him his own.

I watched the show and was more uncomfortable by the allegations made my the young"er.." siblings. My BP came back to normal thanks to the very cryptic points mentioned by the guest. She spoke really well in the limited time provided by her. I feel she could have been allowed to talk for some more time instead of people playing a blame game.

I have come to realise that the expectations from the eldest brother or the only son among multiple sisters "change after marriage" syndrome(as I would like to put it) is seen with a microscope by the blood relations(father, mother and siblings). They find fault telling dialogues like "Oh!!He has changed..He was this and that before and now see him". So from their experience when the younger siblings get married, the same blood relations are more open to accept the change because they do not want to be "heartbroken" ;-) one more time even though many times the people who alleged change by leaps and bounds after marriage.Something like "Oh..periyavane maaritaan..Ivanum maaruvaan. So namma mariyaadhai la irundha better". Why does this thought not come when accepting the first new non-blood relationship?????? Why is this discomfort for accepting "her"?The reason I said "her" is because when it is him he is the maapillai(a person with 2 horns) at the in-laws' home and a son(a person with 1 horn) at his parents' home. This is not entirely true in all cases but can definitely be generalised in my opinion.

Another point was that when the brother buys clothes for his wife he gives her secretly in their room. Well !
1. He would want to capture her first reaction of happiness in private or even expect a kiss/hug which she cannot give in front of everyone. And if she does god save her among his relatives for their "public show of affection".
2. He would want her to try the new costume in front of him in private.
3. It is a sexy lingerie for her. :-)

I do not see anything wrong in any of the above 3 reasons.

Well. after writing these private things in this public forum, I am willing to pay the price (which is) getting slaughtered by the co-Neeya Naana forumers. Having said this I stand by every word that I wrote.

Get set go !

Hi subraps,

there is nothing wrong in what you've written, why do you think forum friends will slaughter you...i totally second your views:)

[Vinodini]

okay.... i agree it to an extent!!!!

you will change vino, and it should be a welcome change for all your relatives...they must accept it gracefully:)...but you seem to refuse to accept the changes in your elder sis after her marriage....but after your marriage you will be sailing in the same boat as your sister:)....its all a matter of too much love and possessiveness:)

[ommsdxb]

No omms, these situations have not erupted since this IT era....ithu kalam kalamaga iruppathu than....IMO those relations who complain that the newly wed has changed must actually change...they must be broad-minded enough to accept the changes for the sake of the newly-wed's married life.

IMO the problems are not only due to monetary issues, though they are also part and parcel of the situation in question:)

LM

Enna boss illainu start pannittu last-la aama irukku-nu finish paniteenga....

I say Monetary issues are also an important factor out of the existing for the strained relationships between brothers/sisters.....

Pankaalinga sandai eppovume Panathula/Sothhu pirithal than poi mudiyum....

Idu en thaalmaiyanaa karuthu

[lovemusic]

LM

Enna boss illainu start pannittu last-la aama irukku-nu finish paniteenga....

I say Monetary issues are also an important factor out of the existing for the strained relationships between brothers/sisters.....

Pankaalinga sandai eppovume Panathula/Sothhu pirithal than poi mudiyum....

Idu en thaalmaiyanaa karuthu

boss, IT era lendhu than illa, kala kalamaga irupathu thannu sonnen:)money matter-um one of the factors, though there are 100 other factors too...sari vidunga:)

[ommsdxb]

boss, IT era lendhu than illa, kala kalamaga irupathu thannu sonnen:)money matter-um one of the factors, though there are 100 other factors too...sari vidunga:)

LM

Vidunga Vidunga.....

Rupaikku 2 pazham illai 2 pazham 1 rupai maathiri aagai pochi namma posts...

Happy to get your Valid Point ......

[veeran]

P.S: In principle, it’s a bitter fact that in any relationships, the
changes after marriage is inevitable. (Percentage differs though!)

I don't know if this is a bitter fact. This is a fact that all people change around new relationships weather its a new boss, new company, when kids are born, there is adaptation involved. This is a part of life. Understanding friends and family will make this better for all involved.